For anyone who has experienced a significant loss, this wonderfully informative and accessible book is a guide to understanding and overcoming grief. The death of someone close -- a familiy member, spouse, or partner -- can result in feelings of overwhelming grief. At the same time, society unrealistically expects people to recover from grief as quickly as possible. I Can't Stop Crying looks at grieving as a painful but necessary process. The authors emphasize the importance of giving permission to grieve and suggest steps for rebuiliding life without the one who is gone. They also look at how such a loss affects relationships with family and friends, as well as lifestyle, work habits, and hopes for the future. The book includes an appendix with bereavement groups, resources, and other self-help organizations for grievers.
Do men and women grieve differently? This text, while emphasizing that there are many ways to cope with grief, offers a refreshing change from the popular gender stereotypes of grief. Two patterns of grieving are described: an intuitive pattern where individuals experience and express grief in an affective way (stereotyped as female); and an instrumental pattern where grief is expressed physically or cognitively (stereotyped as male). A third pattern representing a blending of these two is also introduced. Of critical importance is that such patterns are related to, but not determined by, gender; and each has distinct strengths and weaknesses. Organized into three main parts, this topical new text begins by defining terms, introducing and delineating the grief patterns, and rooting the book's concept in contemporary theories of grief. The second part speculates on factors that may influence individuals' patterns of coping with loss (e.g., personality, gender, culture, etc.). The final part considers implications and therapeutic interventions likely to be effective with different types of grievers.
Drawing upon his unique position as a minister, parent, and mortician's son, Joey O'Connor writes compassionately about issues surrounding death and dying, teaching how to help children trust God and celebrate life--and to deal with, learn from, and grow in the face of death.
Fear often prevents us from engaging in meaningful interaction with the dying and grieving. In Growth through Loss and Change, Volume I & II, author and registered nurse Clarice Schultz explains what can be done for the dying and grieving including how to embrace loss, how to accept it, and how to grieve. A collection of unedited versions of lectures developed and presented during thirty years of teaching, Growth through Loss and Change, Volume I & II places emphasis on identifying the dynamics of loss and discovering practical means of support in personal and institutional settings. It also provides a host of intervention methods which are related to the cultural and emotional aspects of dying, grieving, sudden death, grieving children, and caregiving. Designed as a learning course, Growth through Loss and Change, Volume I & II, enables participants to develop a therapeutic presence they can offer to themselves and others coping with a loss in family, community, and institutions. This guide will help students find a safe place to search for their life's history of loss and come to terms with their own personal death awareness in order to help others.
Impending death hurts, but does not have to be a battle lost; neither is it a picnic in the park for all concerned. Dying Without Crying is a beautiful concise guide, which provides useful, actionable tips for the caregiver and care-receiver ... sharing the experience of facing death with dignity, as well as the difficult emotions and circumstances that accompany it. This compassionate work reiterates the need for love and respect, forgiveness and setting boundaries, the right to make decisions and to be treated as a living person during this challenging time. The author also inspires those of us who are not departing to re-evaluate our past and embrace the opportunity to adjust our sails for the future. J.I.Willett has truly captured the struggles and triumphs of those dealing with death.
"Largely by reason of its isolation, the tiny volcanic island of Tikopia in the South Pacific, has managed to retain its traditional Polynesian culture far more than most Pacific islands. Almost seventy years after the life of the island community was detailed by anthropology student Raymond (later Sir Raymond) Firth, the present author, Julian Treadaway, made several visits to Tikopia, sharing the life of his Tikopian host families for many months at a time, and noting remarkable continuity with the time of Firth's visits and even before. Comparing the present with the past observed by these earlier visitors, Treadaway's stories provide a fascinating account of this continuity and change. With a meticulously observant yet empathetic eye and an easy style, Treadaway records the day-to-day life of the community - detailing the distinctive marriage, funeral, circumcision and other ceremonies; everyday activities such as house-building and growing, catching and preparing food; and unique Tikopian customs of, amongst other things, crawling into houses and ritualistic crying. Through these stories he poses the question that hangs over Tikopia and all such communities: how best can traditional societies benefit from the modern world without completely losing their distinctive culture and identity?"--Cover.
Pascual: His name was legend. A courier for a network of radical groups committed to terrorist activity throughout Europe, he had defected to the enemy and in the hands of Mossad and the CIA had become the single most effective weapon in their counterterrorist operations. Then he disappeared. Cadging meals and sleeping in flophouses, Pascual has shed his past in the teeming portside alleys of Barcelona’s Gothic Quarter. While he has begun to find something like peace of mind, the man who broke the covert world of international terrorism wide open cannot entirely escape his memories. Alcohol can help him forget, but it can’t banish the shadow of Katixa, the one terrorist agent he did not betray—and whom he has no hope of ever seeing again. Or so he thinks. Like a nova exploding in Pascual’s cosmos, Katixa bursts back into his life. On the run from both the police and a terrorist band of Basque nationalists from whom she’s appropriated a suitcase full of kidnapping cash, Katixa arrives with five million francs, a one-way ticket out of Spain, and a plan that includes Pascual. And when Katixa professes her love for him, Pascual’s better judgment doesn’t stand a chance. To save Katixa’s life and perhaps redeem his own, Pascual dusts off his old professional skills in the perilous arts of subterfuge and deceit. Again, the lying has begun, with the crying and dying yet to come.
Beckett's trilogy examines the meaning of death, and the experience of life as exile from self. Molloy: A degenerate old man flees a detective on a bicycle, trying to return home to his decrepit mother as his legs slowly wither. Malone dies: An aging man anxiously waits to die in his cramped and destitute lodgings, yet death does not come. The unnamable: An indeterminate entity struggles with whether he exists, who else he may have been, who is trying to fool him into believing that he exists, or who else he may have been, while anticipating oblivion, unable to go on, yet having to go on.