The male case against patriarchy - why it hurts men, and how they can change it. The macho society that held John Wayne as a role model has created an emotional wasteland where 80 percent of men are unable to accurately express their feelings, and that same percentage feel estranged from their fathers. The stifled male, disconnected and out of touch, fills the void with apathy or anger, and the toll is staggering: short, unhealthy lives, ruined relationships, and damaged children. This destructive behavior repeats itself in the next generation as the sins of the father continue the cycle. In Becoming the Kind Father, Calvin Sandborn aims to break that cycle. His intensely personal story is heart-searing and inspirational. Brought up to fear his father’s alcohol-fueled fury and hateful put-downs, the author buried his feelings and fine-tuned his own rage. His father’s early death and the collapse of the author’s marriage provided catalysts for change. Interspersing clever literary references with painful childhood memories, intense self-examination, and astute observations, Sandborn provides well-researched psychological findings and self-help tips, including how to: Identify and share feelings Treat yourself as a kind father would Form trusting male friendships Break the anger habit Forgive the world and yourself This guide offers helpful insight for the millions of men who want to become kinder human beings. A must-read for every woman who loves an angry or emotionally distant man. Calvin Sandborn is a journalist, author, and environmental lawyer who currently supervises the University of Victoria Environmental Law Clinic. He is also a kind father and grandfather.
There are many books that deal with pregnancy and maternity, and a large number of magazines and articles on paediatric nursing that examine these subjects from different points of view. This volume is not a manual and is not intended to explain to future parents what to do and what to avoid. The objective is rather to look at the most significant and problematic aspects of this delicate phase of a woman's life and that of a couple. It seeks to offer a key to understand the deep significance and complexity of the path to follow to become parents and to face fears linked to the difficulty of procreation, using the tools of observation and psychoanalytic listening. Reviewing several experiences of clinical work, the authors offer reflections on the personal experiences of women and couples and the difficulties which can be met when the desire for a child is disappointed. A maternity and parenting project can be frustrated by miscarriages and encounter the fear of infertility. How are the problems of sterility or spontaneous abortion experienced?
Why we may be forgiven--but are not yet free In January 2009, Dr. Mark Stibbe left his role as the senior leader of a highly successful Anglican congregation. Taking a big step of faith, he founded a ministry called The Father's House, dedicated to taking the Father's love to the fatherless and bringing an end to the global pandemic of fatherlessness. Mark took this risk because he is convinced that our society has been deeply damaged by absent or brutal fathers. The churches can offer a solution--a healing relationship with our Heavenly Father--but many Christians have been poorly fathered and are bound by the legacy of this wound. As long as believers are restricted by the chains of their past, their churches will not be a part of the solution to fatherlessness; they will be a part of the problem. "The whole planet is waiting for Christian believers to rise up as the adopted sons and daughters of Abba, Father." I Am Your Father is designed to help free Christians from their father wounds, so that they are then capable of playing their part in healing our fatherless world. In part 1, Mark takes a detailed look at fatherlessness. He describes the different ways in which fathers can hurt their children and the ensuing toxic results. In part 2, he goes deeper, defining the wound as "the orphan heart" and describing the main symptoms of this condition in peoples' lives. In part 3, he shows how Christians can find true healing through experiencing the spirit of adoption and by using seven keys to freedom. Mark uses his own story of being orphaned and adopted as the backdrop to this teaching.
Set in Philadelphia and revolving around a suspenseful legal case, the novel Becoming His Father's Son tells the story of Alex Hamilton's redemption. A successful, Ivy League-educated, African American attorney, Alex feels superior to other African Americans. In fact, he has achieved his success by winning racial discrimination cases--using questionable tactics--for wealthy, corporate clients. In stark contract to Alex, his physician father, "Dr. Nate" Hamilton, has been practicing medicine in the inner city for thirty years, often giving free treatment to patients who cannot afford to pay. Dr. Nate, the son of a sharecropper, grew up poor in Alabama and worked his way through college and medical school, unlike Alex who has lived a life of privilege. Alex and Nate haven't spoken to each other in years, a situation that grieves Alex's mother, May Hamilton. When Dr. Nate is accused of Medicare fraud and stands to lose everything he has worked for, he turns to his son for help. Alex makes a critical choice to defend his father; a decision based on love--and it irrevocably changes his life. His law partners scheme to maneuver him out of the firm when they learn of his father's indictment; and Alex begins to question all his former assumptions. As they work on the defense case, Nate reveals to Alex family secrets he had until then kept to himself, and father and son achieve a new understanding. The story ends with a suspenseful courtroom trial--the trial of Alex's life--and a surprise twist at the conclusion. A collaboration of Gregory P. Miller, a senior partner in the law firm of Miller, Alfano and Raspanti and author Denise Dennis, Becoming His Father's Son follows the story from Independence Hall to the North Philadelphia ghetto. The novel holds the readers' interest until the last page is turned.
Author: National Academies of Sciences, Engineering, and Medicine
Publisher: National Academies Press
Category: Social Science
Decades of research have demonstrated that the parent-child dyad and the environment of the familyâ€"which includes all primary caregiversâ€"are at the foundation of children's well- being and healthy development. From birth, children are learning and rely on parents and the other caregivers in their lives to protect and care for them. The impact of parents may never be greater than during the earliest years of life, when a child's brain is rapidly developing and when nearly all of her or his experiences are created and shaped by parents and the family environment. Parents help children build and refine their knowledge and skills, charting a trajectory for their health and well-being during childhood and beyond. The experience of parenting also impacts parents themselves. For instance, parenting can enrich and give focus to parents' lives; generate stress or calm; and create any number of emotions, including feelings of happiness, sadness, fulfillment, and anger. Parenting of young children today takes place in the context of significant ongoing developments. These include: a rapidly growing body of science on early childhood, increases in funding for programs and services for families, changing demographics of the U.S. population, and greater diversity of family structure. Additionally, parenting is increasingly being shaped by technology and increased access to information about parenting. Parenting Matters identifies parenting knowledge, attitudes, and practices associated with positive developmental outcomes in children ages 0-8; universal/preventive and targeted strategies used in a variety of settings that have been effective with parents of young children and that support the identified knowledge, attitudes, and practices; and barriers to and facilitators for parents' use of practices that lead to healthy child outcomes as well as their participation in effective programs and services. This report makes recommendations directed at an array of stakeholders, for promoting the wide-scale adoption of effective programs and services for parents and on areas that warrant further research to inform policy and practice. It is meant to serve as a roadmap for the future of parenting policy, research, and practice in the United States.
Leaving a religion is not merely a matter of losing or rejecting faith. For many, it involves dramatic changes of everyday routines and personal habits. Davidman bases her analysis on in-depth conversations with forty ex-Hasidic individuals. From these conversations emerge accounts of the great fear, angst, and sense of danger that come of leaving a highly bounded enclave community. Many of those interviewed spoke of feeling marginal in their own communities; of strain in their homes due to death, divorce, or their parents' profound religious differences; experienced sexual, physical, or verbal abuse; or expressed an acute awareness of gender inequality, the dissimilar lives of their secular relatives, and forbidden television shows, movies, websites, and books. Becoming Un-Orthodox draws much-needed attention to the vital role of the body and bodily behavior in religious practices. It is through physical rituals and routines that the members of a religion, particularly a highly conservative one, constantly create, perform, and reinforce the culture of the religion. Because of the many observances and daily rituals required by their faith, Hasidic defectors are an exemplary case study for exploring the centrality of the body in shaping, maintaining, and shedding religions. This book provides both a moving narrative of the struggles of Hasidic defectors and a compelling call for greater collective understanding of the complex significance of the body in society.
This text is the first to provide a contextual understanding of the clinical issues that affect men and masculinity across a wide range of cultural and national settings. It demonstrates that gender can no longer be viewed as an isolated characteristic; in an era of increased globalization, mental health professionals need to take ethnic and cultural issues into account to provide adequate care for male patients. Numerous international perspectives are offered by the contributing authors, authorities from countries such as Australia, Argentina, Denmark, Canada, India, Ireland, and South Africa, on theoretical and clinical innovations for working with men. Their chapters also offer insight into the socio-cultural contexts for counseling men in and from their respective countries by exploring the ways in which "being a man" is socially defined, what unique challenges men face, and how these challenges can be negotiated within their specific cultural settings. Topics addressed will include boyhood notions of manhood, relationship concerns and power, fatherhood, and men’s body image across the life span. This text will ultimately enable mental health practitioners to have a better understanding of how to work more effectively with male clients.
A father and son climb Mount Kilimanjaro. On the journey to the roof of Africa they traverse the treacherous terrain of fatherhood, divorce, dark secrets and old grudges, and forge an authentic adult relationship. The high-altitude trek takes them through some of the weirdest landscapes on the planet, and the final all-night climb to the frozen summit tests their endurance. On the way to the top father and son explore how our stories about ourselves can imprison us in the past, and the importance of letting go. The mountain too has a story to tell, a story about Climate Change and the future of humankind - a future etched all too clearly on Kilimanjaro’s retreating glaciers.
Now more than ever, American dads act as hands-on caregivers who are devoted to keeping themselves and their families healthy. Yet, men are also disproportionately likely to neglect their own health care, diets, and exercise routines—bad habits that they risk passing on to their children. In Dads, Kids, and Fitness, William Marsiglio challenges dads to become more health-conscious in how they live and raise their children. His conclusions are drawn not only from his revealing interviews with a diverse sample of dads and pediatric healthcare professionals, but also from his own unique personal experiences—as a teenage father who, thirty-one years later, became a later-life dad to a second son. Marsiglio’s research highlights the value of treating dads as central players in what he calls the social health matrix, which can serve both healthy children and those with special needs. He also outlines how schools, healthcare facilities, religious groups, and other organizations can help dads make a positive imprint on their families’ health, fitness, and well-being. Anchored in compelling life stories of joy, tragedy, and resilience, Dads, Kids, and Fitness extends and deepens public conversation about health at a pivotal historical moment. Its progressive message breathes new life into discussions about fathering, manhood, and health.
Chances are, your husband or boyfriend (also known as a Highly Identifiable Male, or H.I.M.) didn't come with an owner's manual or operating instructions. But the good news is: you are now holding the very next best thing. Does your H.I.M. try to "fix" you, rather than listen to you, when you talk?Has your H.I.M. shown signs of a mysterious addiction to baseball, ESPN--or the dreaded "remote"?Is your H.I.M. unable to respond to your question "How do you feel about that?" with anything more than a slack-jawed stare? If so, you're not alone. But help is on the way! With tongue-in-cheek, laugh-out-loud humor, author Chris Fabry offers you a bounty of helpful, hilarious insights into the "secrets" of male behavior. Do you wonder why your man acts the way he does? Do you yearn for practical tips to help you build an even more satisfying relationship with him? Then join us now as we take an unprecedented journey into the strange and intriguing world of The Highly Identifiable Male.